Oh snap!!

I know most of you will be shocked at this but…I snap at my husband.  A lot.  In fact, sometimes I find myself snapping at him regardless of what he does.  For example, when he folds the laundry I snap at him about how he does it (he is really horrible at folding).  When he sits on the couch and watches me fold, I snap at him for not helping.   When he disciplines the kids, I snap at him for being mean.  When he doesn’t discipline the kids, I snap at him for being a pushover.  The poor guy!  He just can’t win with me. 

Lately I have become more conscious of this and I really want to work on it.  I love my husband and I know that he loves me.  In fact, I think that might be part of the problem.  I am not a confrontational person and somewhat of a people-pleaser.  So, I feel like I go through work and life just absorbing frustration without any other way of diffusing it.  Typically, if I get upset or frustrated with a co-worker, a family member, or a friend (of course I don’t mean you, you never frustrate me;) I don’t address it.  I just kind of keep it inside, where it festers.  I have this fear that by being assertive I would offend people or make people not like me.  NO, NOT THAT!  LOL. It’s a silly fear, I know, but it’s my fear.  Anyway, this frustration just builds up and builds up and it needs to go somewhere.  In comes Stephen.

I feel comfortable enough with Steve that I know if I snap at him, he won’t hold it against me (at least not forever).  I don’t have that sense of security with most of the people in my life.  But that almost makes it worse.  That totally plays in to the old adage “You always hurt the ones you love”.  And it just shouldn’t be that way.  So, I am really going to try and make a change.  I am going to try and stop...I am going to try and cut back (let’s be realistic, I am not perfect) on my snapping.   I know Steve doesn’t deserve it and I don’t want to misdirect my anger towards him. Howver, I definitely give myself a few passes during softball season. 

So, kids, I think today’s lesson is that we should really cherish those people in our lives that we can be completely open with, not take advantage of them.  I think most women care a little too much about what other people think and it is really nice to have someone in your life that you can be totally comfortable with.  Why be mad at that person when it’s everyone else that is ticking you off?  I’m not saying that you should NEVER snap at your husband.  I am sure that they will do plenty of things that are snap-worthy.  Just take a second and think before you snap…and then call your boss and tell him where to go insteadJ 

Until next time…